a chance to live ...

( I have tried to finish up this post the last 2 days but I can't it just makes me wonder deeper as why would a person reacts such a way )

This is one of the very reason why I don't like reading newspapers, it is very saddening. A French woman got 'pregnancy denial' sickness. How could a person/ a mother kill her own baby and she is not an adolescent nor teenager, annnd its not 1 or 2 but 3 of her babies ? It is certainly absurd, how can her husband not realize anything ? Even more absurd. Where is this society heading to ?

Then another similar case in the local news whereby the baby is being abandoned by the road side. These are very sad stories why aren't these babies be given a chance to live ? Why ?

I seriously do not understand why as adult these mothers to be, do not give their babies a chance to live ? Even though a tough life these are your babies. Be it good or bad you have the responsibility to bring them up. And by killing them you are denying them the chance to live, to get on this journey.

And here the baby have not any chance to live, there another wanted to give away their life, suicide. Why ? As long as you are still breathing nothing is impossible. If you have to courage to take your life away, use that courage to continue living as it is not the end yet.

Its a little troubling me. I just can't finish this post as I would want it to be.

Two choices

I got this email from a dear friend in Canada this morning, she usually send me touching emails like this one, somehow I feel like sharing it here with you.

Two Choices

What would you do?....you make the choice. Don't look for a punch line, there isn't one. Read it anyway. My question is: Would you have made the same choice?

At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question:

'When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does, is done with perfection.

Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do.

Where is the natural order of things in my son?'

The audience was stilled by the query.

The father continued. 'I believe that when a child like Shay, who was mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.'

Then he told the following story:

Shay and I had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, 'Do you think they'll let me play?' I knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but as a father I also understood that if my son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.

I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.'

Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye and warmth in my heart. The boys saw my joy at my son being accepted.

In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.

In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands.

In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again.

Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.

At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game?

Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shay stepped up to the
plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact.

The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed.

The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay.

As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.

The game would now be over.

The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to thefirst baseman.

Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.

Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates.

Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, 'Shay, run to first!

Run to first!'

Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base.

He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.

Everyone yelled, 'Run to second, run to second!'

Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base.

By the time Shay rounded towardssecond base, the right fielder had the ball, the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team.

He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third baseman's head.

Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.

All were screaming, 'Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay'

Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, 'Run to third!

Shay, run to third!'

As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, 'Shay, run home! Run home!'

Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team.

'That day', said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, 'the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world'.

Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making me so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

AND NOW A LITTLE FOOT NOTE TO THIS STORY:

We all send thousands of jokes through the e-mail without a second thought, but when it comes to sending messages about life choices, people hesitate.

The crude, vulgar, and often obscene pass freely through cyberspace, but public discussion about decency is too often suppressed in our schools and workplaces.

If you're thinking about forwarding this message, chances are that you're probably sorting out the people in your address book who aren't the 'appropriate' ones to receive this type of message Well, the person who sent you this believes that we all can make a difference.

We all have thousands of opportunities every single day to help realize the 'natural order of things.'

So many seemingly trivial interactions between two people present us with a choice:

Do we pass along a little spark of love and humanity or do we pass up those opportunities and leave the world a little bit colder in the process?

A wise man once said every society is judged by how it treats it's least fortunate amongst them.

What is your choice ?

So long as you do not stop ...

Another day off the norm routine, I was away in our Rasa offce attending to some legal matters. It is a nice break away from the normal routine office in KL. The city is getting a bit too overly crowded for me and I truly need to get out. As well as NO internet connection, being not connected to the net for a day truly allows me to think. To strategise my plans and my life.

Things are truly falling in slowly as well as surfacing one by one for me to deal with. I have taken too long to accept and act. Hoping and waiting for miracle which sometimes will be delay indefinitely. And while it is delay, what should I do ? The so call 'day dreaming' rather the actual dreaming.

Confucius says ' It doesn't matter that you move slowly, so long as you do not stop'. The moral of the lesson is that we never give up on ourselves, so long as we still are able to live and continue living, the end is not there yet. I also recently watch series preview of a travel show; the host mentioned something that is very inspiring. “What you lost you can find back right ? So if you can find back, then why do you worry ?” He is refering to money and success, so long as we are still alive and kicking, we still have the chance to do it again. One should never stop, never gives up its not the end yet ! The most important obstacle is in us, our pride, ourself; how we take failure and accept defeat ! Not everyone is able to and not everyone can.

Every so often we see people who takes up the risk, stepping out of their comfort zone to pursue a dream, a dream that may be crazy or a dream that may be idealistic. And most often the path to every dream is going to be an uphill task, whether the path is a 90 degree or 45 degree in steepness is up to the universe to decide. All we have to do is to pay every attention to focusing on the task of manouevering the twists and turns to keep the journey going. And when the journey gets tough, we need to take a break, referesh our mind and continue. Some path may need to go down the valley in order to reach the next peak. This is what makes the journey interesting rather then only uphills, by going dowhills we will be abe to see a different view of the hill, a much wider pictures from the bottom so that we we are the peak, we know how it is to be at the bottom. To treasure and value where we are, how we reach the top.

Chinese saying ' By keeping the forest, you don't have to worry there's no wood for fire'. It is not the end yet if you know you are still breathing now ! I have always know that my life is so full of obstacle, be it work, career, finance or love. But I always believe that I am here with a purpose, the universe have plans for me.

So long as I do not stop ..

my passion ... what's yours ?

Wanted to write but my mind is empty for now, may be later. So meanwhile, enjoy this few pics my passion for the sea ... not pro but just sharing some.

Courage and Strength

When I write about the Crazy topic earlier, I was referring to the outer factor; the community and society we live in. I got a tweet from Goo whom I followed recently (and the very person who had that power to urge me to tweet when some Thai friends had introduced to me earlier, but I wasn't interested). She mentioned something of dream, what would a person be without dream; I agree, and dream drive the passion deeper. Passion will create the need and want out of a person, passion drives the dream far and wide !

But before that, do we internally have that courage and strength to seek out our dream and let our passion drives us on ? I have come across a lot of people, friends and casual acquaintances talking to me about the many things in life; ohh how nice to have this and not to do that. BUT how many of us can really step out of that comfort zone and just DO IT ? It takes tons of courage and strength to act on a certain thing that had been rooted deep inside us. The fear to step out in the open, letting ourself be prone to pain, failure and obstacles, summons a lot of courage in us. Some will never and forever complain their whole life. Some like me, just do it as life is just too short to regret over things that should have been but never are !

A person is what he/she think he/she is. A man is what he thinketh. We should determine who we are and not the society, we feel our own feeling, we think our own mind. But most of all being true to oneself and never live a life of deceit. To deny yourself of happiness is the most cruel thing that you do to yourself. We always talk about loving someone deeply and doing things for the other person, but have we thought of the core of thing in us ? To love the other person, that is coming from us, and who are we in the first place ? Have we deny who we are ? If we are denying who we are then how are we going to give love to the person whom we claim to love ?

May be I am getting a little confusing here, what I am trying to say is to love others we must first love ourself, know who we are and what we are first then we move on to love another. Otherwise we are not eligible or qualify to take care of any other person whom we claim to love when in the very first place we don't know who we are !

This is courage and strength that you must have within you, only you can do that and not any other outer factor.

I too must deal with myself FIRST ! Are you ?

Crazy ?

Wacko, psyco path, mental disturbance, crazy, mental illness, any defintions to the situation that is being refer to when a person crossed the line between real and unreal, into the other moment.

Its just a very thin fine line, to cross or not to cross. Our daily life, peer pressures, society pressures plays a vital role in where we will end up, how we will end up. Those who are not strong mentally and always living in the eyes of the world, will give in. Give in to what they think the world would approve of it. And lose themselves in the process !

A lot of us are being thrown into the world without much knowledge and capability to determine which is which.We pick up some lesson along the way, fail some pass some, repeats most the time, going merry go round. In the more civilise and develop countries, society changes, advancing its citizen to have a mind of their own, being allow to independently determine and live the lives they choose. However in more reserve and conservative societies it is not up to the individual to decide who they want to be rather then what the society approve them to be.

I would like to take an issue for example, being gay or homosexual. This has been an issue that will surpasses race or gender. People can now accept a color person to take office, a woman to lead, but may not be approving of a gay relationship. Civil rights, legalisation of partnership, rights to adoptions, many more benefits that a heterosexual couple could enjoy are being deny a gay couple (even the word homosexual already trigger a red alarm in the mind of the society).

We hear a lot of times that religion do not approve of gay relationship, same sex is against the nature, God will punish etc etc etc. I am just curious, being gay does not mean that that person in doing sin, that the person is not religious, that he/she do not have faith. And it is certainly NOT a disease. But why would society gives so much pressures to this group of minority ? Can anyone shed a light on me, enlighten me please !

Now back to being label as crazy or having mental illness, is an external factor more of an internal factor, IMHO. Our community is ever so judgemental of how we come out, how we carry ourself. BUT have society really think of what is in the mind of that person ? Do we really give that person a chance to be who he/she wants ? Every one of us come into this world with a role to play, if we deny this right to any single human, we are worst then being a Nazi dictatorship and must condemn such acts at all. You cannot repend your sin for what you have did by being judgemental towards your fellow human. Oh well I am just ranting and venting my thoughts that is running wild. A world without prejudices and judgements would be an ideal place to live in, paradise !

Its just a thin fine line to determine who you are, there or here ? to come back or to remain .. which one is you ? where are you now ?

Identity

How amazing that today I forgot to bring my wallet (it has only happened twice in my life, this is the 2nd time); and being too lazy to u-turn back. I just continue driving. Thinking and talking to myself hmm will I be that lucky and got into any traffic offense ? Such as speeding or stop by police ? Hahaha (the power of attraction as written in The Secret) just before I finish, the opposite car flashes its headlight, police road block ahead ! Oh darn, did I speed just now ? No I didn't, I was on limit 80kph or 90th may be. So I wasn't sure and out of a sudden to avoid being caught I exit immediately and make a by-pass. I got away.

Then I have no cash to buy food, was lucky to have my coin purse with me annnd I manage to change my coins into 10 ringgit. Though I have cash now, I did not use it all. I have my biz partner buy me lunch, and my frenz spare me free snacks ! Dinner ? My brother came to my rescue ! Amazingly I avoided the authority and got free meals !

Now come to think of it, we are always caught in this material world ! ID card, credit cards, driving license, you name it all sorts of cards and licenses ,all are numbers that give us identity the very first day we are born, the very first lesson we take. Come into society with ALL numbers tagging along.

( as I write half way just now the internet give UP ... arrrrghhhh lost my inspiration of what to write now)

Where were I ? Oh yeah as we go through the journey one by one, more and more numbers we carry on our shoulders, insurance policies, bank accounts, social security numbers etc etc etc. But all these does is really reflects anything that bare who we are ? All these numbers .. it really doesn't have any meaning if we stop carrying them on our shoulders.

And yet to keep things orderly we are oblige to have these numbers to tag who we are or what we are !

hmmm so what is my identity, what is your identity this moment in your life ?

Time to talk and a time to be silence

I am still absorbing the quote of Abraham Lincoln "Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt".

It is certainly very true that sometimes we just need to shut off and let things be rather then to keep explaining and arguing profusely about what should be, what has to be or what need to be. Why we act this way and not that way, why one way and not the other way. Putting the fire off with water is better then with liquid that is highly inflammable. To fend off fire with wood is not the best way nor the earth can help much. It is also better to walk off and come back again when the heat had cool down and tension is not boiling.

And it is also not the idea to be engaging in discussion that is elusive and non productive; this way it will certainly make the intelligent become less intelligent ! We talk to let the other party know how we feel, how we react to the comment. But sometimes its just useless to talk as there in no way we can change or clear the doubt at all.

Being silence is it the best way or otherwise ? Keeping mum about an issue will repress our feelings, if the issue is not address it will grow within. It will create a chain reaction to what happens next when we are unable to control ourself and explode.

Its is always an ever complex matter how we should deal with a situation to the best of our ability. Then again there is also no best way or method to deal with the situation. It is our conscience at that moment with our intuition what is the best way to handle the situation. What happens after will only shows how best we have learned from the past in dealing with the current.

What have you learn from the past in dealing with the current ?