burning flame

Burning Flame, I have always emphasize on working with the flame. When a person wants to excel in one area, he or she have to have that burning flame in his or her heart and once the flame wade off, its also the end of the light.

When we work or commit ourselves into something we must always let the flame burn on, we may allow it to dim but never die off ! It goes the same with passion, for a life without passion and dream is a life not worth living; is a life live without knowing what it is for.

In every little or grand gestures that we do, we should do it with this burning flame ! This very same ‘heat’ comes alive when I was involved in a group tweet in support of a ‘couple’ recently. A fellow twitter was so full of ‘passion’ which I don’t think it as bad. Because when a deeply passionate person feels the frustration of a struggle, it automatically surface all emotions that has been running deep. And this is real and true emotions. This is also part of what I am trying to deal with in our Asian cultures, tons of minorities be it race, gender or religious conflicts are being surprises’ in Asia and most frustratingly is the person being suppressed is not doing anything about it to rise up ! Just let it be .. living a life without truly living in it !

I quote a little example of a casual encounter that I had recently. This person is so afraid to come out to her family citing filial piety and tons of circumstances that may rise from it. Well yes different family have different values and there’s a Chinese saying ‘ every family have it own mantras that is un-chant able’ And there goes, who is more selfish here ? The parents/family or the person itself ? If let say she choose to come out and this will makes her parents angry and says that she is a bad daughter etc etc and selfish in her choice to come out that may tarnish or make the family lose face. This could end up her parents disowning her, zero inheritance from parents, and she is totally on her own. But she live and honest life, no lying, no covering up of tales after tales, the heart is full and are able to speak the freely !

Now lets think of the other way round, that she chooses not to come out and seek happiness of her own. After all one is responsible to one’s own happiness or in this case unhappiness … she choose to be in the closet forever and not being recognize anywhere and not being able to come out in the open with relatives and friends acknowledging who she is. She live a life of deceit and lies … she makes her parents happy living in a world of deceit and make pretending that nothing happen and all is right ! And she is being tie to a string like a bird that is not able to fly away to higher ground to the sky .. something is in there that is not free.

Of the 2 choices, which would you take ?